What if we all were sentenced to 6 months hard marriage before being granted a divorce? Well, that is just what happened in the movie “What Happens in Vegas.” Just think about how this could change our present view of marriage.
I was driving to work yesterday and I heard about a new marriage trend to omit the phrase, “till death do us part” from the marriage vows. It seems that it is becoming more popular to get married with the understanding, “if it doesn’t work out, we can always divorce.” I have read many blogs where people argue that marriage is an antiquated ritual and unrealistic in today’s age but I honestly just believe that all those blogs are convenient arguments that allow a person to escape commitment when things get tough or life doesn’t go exactly how they planned it. I really like the principle of 6 months hard marriage, assuming there is no evidence of abuse within the marriage, before being able to apply for divorce. In today’s age we often choose to run from adversity or struggles instead of figuring out new ways to resolve and overcome them. When we took our wedding vows most of us said for better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, till death do us part. Why would we even recite those vows if we don’t mean them? Why shouldn’t we fight for these vows, the commitment, and the choice we made in marrying our significant other.
Who knows how many marriages could be saved, how many children could be spared, and how many families could be strengthened through a six month hard marriage requirement before divorce. One blog I read believed it was ridiculous to expect two people to stay married their whole lives. He went on to argue that marriage today has higher expectations of people than any other marriage requirements in history. Sighting longer life expectancy, the requirement of permanent cohabitation, and unrealistic premise that two people can walk the same road their whole life. In the Bible it is made very clear that the process of being married is both a permanent and good union. Maybe the reason we no longer understand the benefits of marriage is because we no longer hold sacred one of the acts that is to be only in marriage. Studies have shown that when someone has sex their first time a chemical bond is created between the person and the sexual partner. Why exactly would this be true if in fact we were not designed to bond to one another? Now can this bond be broken and diluted to the level that many can argue that it is not valid? Sure it can but the question we must ask ourselves is: are we actually settling for a compromised love and happiness instead of holding out for the complete happiness and love we could have experienced in life through a pure marriage and a close relationship with our Lord?
Now to be clear I am not making the that argument that we all have to be married to be happy but in fact that we need to be true to the Bible’s teachings and completely commit ourselves to marriage if we choose to take that path. Also, we should put a full commitment and devotion to our Lord living in purity and with a purpose if we choose not to marry. It is in our best interest to not live compromised lives but ones that are consistent with the principals of biblical purity and marital commitment.
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beautiful and well said! I recently told one of our church trustees that I was seeing someone and he asked if he was a Christian man. I told him I wasn't sure and if he wasn't, perhaps I am supposed to bring him to Christ. His response was that that usually doesn't work. He mentioned that sometimes by having a partner who is not right with God can veer me from MY path. I have often mulled over his thoughts on this and can completely understand what he means. Not that I was looking to run out and marry the guy, but why start on a path with someone who doesn't share that strong bond with God?! The more I open myself up to Him, the more I understand through soul and mind!
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